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Mother of the Groom Apparel
See Other: Ask Nancy Questions and Advice
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| We (siblings) were born in the US to a Nigerian father and American mother. We were raised as dual citizens of both countries. As we have married, we have done a traditional Nigerian wedding the evening before the American traditional wedding the next day. We (family) wear traditional clothes to the Nigerian traditional wedding and the reception of the American traditional wedding.
However, my brother's finance's parents (both Nigerian) have requested that we wear Nigerian clothes to the traditional American wedding as is their intention. My mother is objecting because she wants her nationality to be acknowledged in some way at the traditional wedding outside of the bride and groom. Should my mother concede? The family is divided on the debate. |
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| Nancy's Advice: |
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| Weddings symbolize new beginnings and it is my belief that compromise is the best solution to this issue. My advice is to allow every family member and guest to dress according to what attire is comfortable to that person. If your brother's future in-laws prefer to wear Nigerian clothes to the American part of the ceremony, they should. Also, your mother should not be offended at their decision as their apparel is not a reflection of their love for your family or new son-in-law. In the larger picture of combining families, this is a matter that should not be allowed to blossom into a division at the onset of your brother's marriage. Your family's acceptance will be a positive building block in forming a lasting and strong foundation.
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